The Psychology of Dating: Why Testing People Is an Intimacy Issue

Written By Masti Lashkari

COMING SOON.

COMING SOON.

 

This article breaks down why “testing” in dating isn’t discernment—it’s a defense rooted in avoided intimacy. You’ll learn the psychological mechanisms behind relational surveillance, control, and emotional withholding. More importantly, you’ll see what real safety actually looks like when two nervous systems meet. If you’ve been confusing protection with connection, this will recalibrate everything.

Masti Lashkari https://www.mastilashkari.com
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